What are the reasons for my unanswered prayers? Is there something wrong with my prayers? There are no simple answers.

The question most believers ask, is: “What is God’s will?”  The next question they ask, is: “Why doesn’t God answer my prayer or why don’t I get an answer to my prayers?” Part of the answer to the second question is God’s will.

Some Christians try to defend God when people ask questions about God’s actions. Don’t try to play God and think you can give answers to all questions. Don’t try to be clever. Only God knows everything. God can speak for himself. The Holy Spirit is God’s Advocate. The Holy Spirit reveals the will of God.

Lamentations.3:44 – You have covered yourself with a cloud so that no prayer can get through.


Not receiving an answer or not getting what you asked, does not necessarily have anything to do with unbelief.


Paul prays in 2 Cor.12:9 about the thorn in his flesh. He asked God three times and God said no. It had nothing to do with unbelief, but with the will of God.

Here are a few things you can have a look at and think about when you don’t understand why God is not answering and you don’t get answers to your prayers.

  • It is important to understand that our “responsibility” is to pray, and God’s “responsibility” is to answer.
    Often, we want to pray and give the answer. Why do we then ask the Lord to help us to understand His will? God has a will and his will is perfect. He is Almighty and He knows what He is doing. If God is not allowed to say “no”, what then is the purpose of prayer and what type of God do we have if we need to tell Him what to do? Jesus teaches us to pray: “Your will be done.”  If we pray it in the right way, it is a sign of belief, not unbelief.
    To do: Write a prayer where you ask God to answer in his own way and thank Him for taking responsibility for you and your situation. 
  • When you feel confused, not understanding and clueless, the most important thing to do, is to focus on God’s character.
    Focus and study his character and learn who He is. Ask the Holy Spirit to show you God’s character in Scripture.  Read the Psalms.  We learn much about who God is from Psalms.  Believe the Word rather than your own feelings and questions of doubt. Certain circumstances and situations in your own life can leave you powerless, confused and bitter.  Sometimes you go through trauma and there is just no answers.  During such times, it is not the logical answers that will help us, but who God is! Only God, his character and actions is constant. (Num.23:19; Hebr.13:8) When we search for God Himself, rather than answers to our questions, we have fewer questions, because we see and know that God did not lose control or feel indifferent toward us.
    To do: Write a prayer in your own words asking God to reveal his character to you. 
  • Pray according to the will of God.
    Many people pray, but few searches first for the will of God. The Our Father prayer teaches us to pray: Your will be done. Joh.13:12-14 teach us that anything we ask in Jesus’ Name, He will give to us. However, 1 Joh.3:21-22 says: If our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God 22 and receive from him anything we ask, because we keep his commands and do what pleases him. Matt. 4 tells us how the Evil One tempted Jesus. Jesus answered “no” every time, because none of that was God’s will for his life in that situation.
    To do: Ask God to make his will known to you in his time and in his way. 
  • God shows mercy sometimes in not answering us.
    A positive answer is not always the best thing! (Ps.106:15) At a certain time, God gave Israel what they asked, but it was to their detriment: “Then He gave them what they asked, but they declined in health.” They were so self-absorbed that they did not want to listen to God’s counsel and wisdom and it was to their own judgment.
    To do: Thank God for not answering all your questions and that you can and will trust Him to make known to you what you need to know. 
  • We are often not spiritually ready for the answer.
    Sometimes we ask questions about, for example the future or what the outcome of an illness will be. God doesn’t answer us because we are not spiritually mature or ready for the answer. Should He answer us, it can destroy us or we can lose our faith. Knowledge can be a stumbling block. Too much knowledge often leads to loss of faith and misery. That is why God does not tell us certain things. We do not know everything, but let it be enough that God knows and that He is in control. (Deut.29:29; 1 Cor.13:12)
    To do: Confess before God that you trust Him with those things you don’t know or understand or get answers to.
  • God has a purpose for every person.
    Sometimes something ordinary, sometimes something extraordinary (Rom.9:21). We sometimes ask the right question, but the answer we seek doesn’t fit the purpose we were created for, God’s plan for our lives and that is why God says no to us! There is quite a difference between Your-will-be-done and My-will-be-done.
    To do: Ask God what your life’s purpose is and confess that you will entrust your life to Him. Ask the Holy Spirit to show you which things in your life were born of God and which are not from God. (1 Joh.5:4) 
  • At times, we don’t stand on “praying ground”.
    The attitude of our hearts can be wrong, we don’t really want to hear what God wants to say and we just want Him to give us what we ask or there is sin in our lives. Sin hinders the answering of prayer. Ps.66:18 teaches that God won’t hear if there is sin in our hearts. The one that hides his sin, mustn’t expect anything good; the one who confesses his sin and repents, will receive mercy (Prov.28:13). Come to a place where you can stand in dependency before God, with your heart trained on Him, your life clean and you ready to do the will of God no matter what He asks.
    To do: Take time to be silent before God and ask the Holy Spirit to show you any sin that hinders God to work in your life and confess that sin E.g..slander, honouring your father and mother, anger, racism, etc. 
  • Sinful reactions when we think God is not answering:
    Self-pity; Bitterness; Unbelief in God and the Word; Anger; Misery; Disappointment. Therefore, thus says the Lord [to Jeremiah]: If you return [and give up this mistaken tone of distrust and despair], then I will give you again a settled place of quiet and safety, and you will be My minister; and if you separate the precious from the vile [cleansing your own heart from unworthy and unwarranted suspicions concerning Gods faithfulness], you shall be My mouthpiece. (Jer.15:19)
    To do: Ask the Holy Spirit to show you negative attitudes towards God. Confess it and ask for forgiveness. Make a definite choice to believe God – that He is good, just and merciful and that He does not want to do you damage.

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